Friday, April 10, 2015

When you're needy toddler really NEEDS you!


Hey guys! 
I wanted to share what has been going on in my life lately in the hopes that it might be able to help someone else. I've been experiencing some new parenting trials and wanted to share with friends. 

Here recently (about 2 weeks) I have been noticing that our sweet girl has been very very needy, a bit spunky, and overall more challenging. So I decided to dive in deeper to try and help her along. I pulled out some of my human development textbooks from school and got to studying. Every time Eleanor goes through a developmental milestone I'm always amazed at the awesome wonder of creation. My tiny little human...getting so big and developing big girl thoughts and gaining more independence. She's done so well with adjusting to having a new sibling and within the last month her verbal processing skills have increased. 
All of that to say this---it's no wonder that she has been more "needy" because guess what, she NEEDS me.

There's something in development called the "reconnecting phase" and it's typically an intermission between developmental leaps. When parents are out of harmony typically discipline problems will multiply. If you are trying to foster independence and your child is trying to bond you're totally out of harmony. It's not being "needy" it's NEEDING to reconnect and it means that an emotional refueling needs to take place.

If you get too busy while your child is in the reconnecting phase you may miss out on the opportunity to patch up breaks in communication. 

Thursday, April 9, 2015

Multi-Level Marketing--a Viable Income for Mamas!

I recently saw a comment on a thread that went a little something like this, "people used to be all watch out for pyramid scheme and now it seems that everyone I know is getting into something, it seems as though it's targeted to women, what's the deal?"

That comment was so poignant that I decided to write a post about it!

I want to answer the question in a public forum as to educate others. 

The answer is this--it works.

Within the last month I have witnessed (personally), mothers without hope beginning hoping again.
A single mother who now has the ability to provide the necessities for her son. A Mama who was trapped//stresses in the day-to-day of owning a business now having the ability to spend quality time with her family, while providing additional stress free income, and lastly a pregnant mother enjoy her postpartum without the stress and sadness of having to go back to work. 

Stories continue to multiply and you're right--it IS geared towards women, specifically mothers. It's growing and will continue to grow, as long as people continue experiencing the financial freedom that multilevel marketing has to offer!

You see "direct sales" or "multilevel marketing" has changed rapidly over the last couple of years. Before with companies is like Amway, Melaleuca, or Mary Kay you had to carry stock and provide your customers with the products that they desired. Nowadays companies like Jam Berry, Young Living, DoTerra, and Plexus provide you with something as simple as a member number, an affiliate link, or a back office! Simple and streamlined. 

Along with the explosion of multilevel marketing companies we have also seen huge growth in the "blogosphere". It seems as though every Mama is a "Mommy Blogger"  and you'll often find affiliate links sprinkled throughout every single one of their posts. You see direct selling is very very similar to those blog affiliate links, you receive a commission based on what someone purchases, just like that blogger receives a commission on whatever you purchased through Amazon.

Here's the catch though---you receive a commission every single time someone purchases through your "affiliation" --even once and it's called residual income. Furthermore, you receive additional commission when that initial individual that you introduced, decides to introduce someone else to what it is that you offer (and are passionate about)! You see it's a trickle down NOT so much a pyramid. Think of the company that employs you (if you work), you probably have a President, a CEO, and a Manager--that my friend is a pyramid. 

Imagine if you got paid every single time you recommended your favorite cloth diaper, teething remedy, or shampoo and someone went and bought it. Can you imagine getting a check in the mail every single time someone purchases one of your favorite items? 
So here's the catch to multilevel marketing, you have to sell something that you believe in! If you don't find essential oils to be useful--don't sell it. If keeping your nails manicured isn't your passion--don't sell it. Instead find something that you really love and WILL use so that when you talk to others you're not "selling" instead you're-- SHARING. 
Something else that you want to look into is the company's compensation plan. If the compensation plan isn't rewarding you adequately for your work then you should find another company. For instance, if you have to do a lot of work for a minimal pay then that doesn't fix your---"I want more freedom" problem does it? Find something that you're passionate about and that will pay you what your worth. 

My passion has and always will be, to help mothers who are working and have the desire to be home, come home. With this structure of business I am able to do just THAT! 

Let's face it--equal pay for women, specifically mothers is an ongoing issue that needs to be addressed. Whether you're working in a job or you're working your own multilevel marketing level business, I support you! 

If you are involved with a direct selling company that has changed your life, I want to hear about it! 

If you're getting involved and see the potential, I want to hear about it!

Let's support one another in our endeavors!!!


Thursday, February 5, 2015

Why I Choose Not to Vaccinate.

I have had so many of you message me and ask me about where I was with vaccinations, have I exposed Ella to chickenpox, and what my thoughts were on measles. I have had many people close to me advise me NOT to say anything but, I can't not share with you guys. I love you all and hope that you can make an informed decision for your family. We are all faced with choices and I hate that there is so much hate on both sides of the debate, whether or not you choose to vaccinate is up to you and informed consent is necessary in order to make this decision. I support you no matter your decision and I hope that you can support me too. 

Here is what I can tell you:
When I found out that I was pregnant with Ella I hadn't given much thought about vaccines. As a matter of fact, I didn't even know that you had a choice on vaccinating or not. While I was taking my childbirth education classes at the birthing center I began to think about the impending birth, I began writing out my birth plan and when I got to the portion regarding the HepB vaccine, I stopped. On the day that my baby is born, I am supposed to inject them with a disease, a disease in which exposure is slim to none? I started my research and this is what I found...


When I was little I did receive vaccinations; I remember going to the Health Dept and getting my shots. I think that I went twice with my Mom and that was it. Things look a little different now and we aren't just vaccinating against Polio and Diphtheria, we are now vaccinating against very mild, treatable diseases. We all had chicken pox, measles, mumps, rubella,  etc., as kids.  No one feared these things.  They were a right of passage.  You stayed home from school, got spoiled, watched cartoons and went back to school and that was that.  We also didn’t have peanut allergies, or autism or diabetes.   As a child, I knew of no one who had any of those things. I think we received about 6 vaccines when I was little. I began to realize that today’s children receive a lot more, but I didn’t realize how many.  I learned: 69 doses of 16 vaccines before age 18.   Including a Hep B vaccine on day of birth in most hospitals.  Outrageous. 


A picture started to form while I was doing this research.  A very clear picture that was at the same time, very disturbing.  

Vaccines have killed children

This is not a conspiracy.  This is a fact that is admitted by doctors, the package inserts and the manufacturers themselves.  Children die after vaccine.  A lot more often then you would imagine. As a matter of fact, there is a website (partially funded by the CDC) where you can go and report injury.

https://vaers.hhs.gov/index



Vaccines cause harm

I know that with every “medicine,” there is risk.   The benefit should offset the risk.  None of these childhood illnesses were worrisome when I was young.   When you vaccinate, you take the risk of lifelong chronic illness, or even death.  A big price to pay, to avoid a mild childhood illness that gives you lifelong immunity. 



Vaccine ingredients 

Read about them.  Understand them.  It’s no wonder so many children die and are injured.  Read the inserts too.




Corruption 

I learned a placebo isn’t a placebo when it comes to vaccine studies. I learned that the studies are not independent.  I learned that nothing is what I thought it was.  The vaccine industry has long known the harmful side effects and are indemnified from any harm they cause.  Some of the things that have happened are downright criminal, but no one will step in and prosecute.

http://therefurbishedrogue.wordpress.com/2014/01/07/one-of-the-sickest-examples-of-vaccine-industry-corruption-wyeth-internal-memo/

Advance warning 

There is no advance warning for vaccine injury.  It doesn’t matter if you selectively vaccinate, get one vaccine, delay, etc.  You have no way of knowing in advance if your children will be injured. If you are holding your breath and praying when you vaccinate, you shouldn’t be vaccinating.

Take your time 

You are in no rush. Take all the time necessary to learn everything you can so you can make an informed decision. Go check out this list of peer-reviewed studies!


Most doctors know as much about vaccines as I know about rocket engines 

Doctors don’t know what is in a vaccine, what isn’t in a vaccine, what an injury looks like or how to report them.  Most doctors, according to some research, don’t even vaccinate their kids on schedule.  Most doctors aren’t “up to date” on their own vaccines.  Most doctors don’t understand the history of herd immunity and how it does not apply to vaccinated populations.  They don’t understand anything outside of what they have been taught by their pharma-funded schooling.


Don’t be bullied 

The AAP, which is where pediatricians get all their information, pushes pediatricians to have their patients vaccinated and the propaganda is extreme.  Many peds are not seeing patients who don’t vaccinate.  FINE.  They work for you and not vice versa.  Find a family doctor or a DO  or a chiropractor or an ND to see you and your kids.  Most don’t push vaccines because they don’t have the AAP breathing down their necks.   Most kids don’t need medical care anyway.  “Well visits” are vaccine visits.  

Vaccines aren’t required for school

Exemptions exist in every state. Some states are more difficult than others, but they exist in every state. 

Many doctors have spoken out against vaccines


http://greatmothersquestioningvaccines.com/quotes.html

Vaccines didn't save us from anything

Yes, we have been told that vaccines eradicated polio, small pox, etc.  I have learned there is so much manipulation, it's hard to know exactly what happened with polio, but it's very clear that vaccines didn't eradicate it in the U.S. or in any other country.  In fact, there is plenty of evidence vaccines have caused polio many times, in the U.S. and in other countries.  Looking at the history of disease and mortality rates before and after vaccine was mind blowing.

http://greatmothersquestioningvaccines.com/history-of-vaccine-and-diseaseillness.html

Study, read, research, ask questions, talk to other parents, read everything you can get your hands on.  Then make a decision.  Don’t let anyone make your decision for you.  It’s your child, your choice. 


https://docs.google.com/document/pub?id=1Y2hS7WxS2gU4yXCjuYx84AY60tQc2rGXnTPPWqogOfk

**BIG thank you to Nancy Babcock (whom this article was adapted from)! Her dedication in Vaccine Awareness is something special. She has compiled so much information (found in this post) and I couldn't be more thankful! THANK YOU! https://www.facebook.com/nancy.novax?fref=ts

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Ripping off the band-aide..

I was about to type out how it "pains me to write this" or "how I am a failure" and maybe add in a "wish I could do it over" but I'm not...I'm not going to type any of that regarding the previous existence of Everyday Baby. I am not in pain. I'm not a failure. I wouldn't do any of it over...

Instead I'll tell you the truth. 



When I gave birth to Ella it changed my life, the traditional work force wasn't for me, and I needed a way out. Everyday Baby was my ticket. I dreamed of a place that I could take my baby to work, empower other mothers, and provide support. I emptied my savings account and got started building a business from the ground up. I was good at it. My previous business experience served me well and I was going steady. Heres what I didn't have experience in, motherhood. I had zero clue how much raising a child was going to take, nor was I prepared for the uphill battle that owning a brick & mortar business was going to be. Fast forward a rigorous year and a half later and I find out that I'm pregnant with my second baby while battling my (newly diagnosed) Ulcerative Colitis, wasn't a very good first trimester. The store suffered, I suffered, and I wasn't happy. My happy place became a prison. A prison that I had created. A place that was supposed to be my ticket to freedom became a major stressor.



I needed a plan...and fast. I had nothing.
I could've hired and I could have modified operation but I felt like I would be doing a disservice to the business because my heart just wasn't in it anymore. After months of prayer I decided to close the brick and mortar and head to the Farmers Market, which I don't know if you've tried to apply to get into a Farmers Market but it's REALLY difficult, at least the market I wanted to get into..I actually had my 3rd meeting with them the DAY Andersen was born, needless to say I had to cancel.

The day that I had Andersen something else birthed from me, I became immune to the feeling of failure regarding EB. I realized the moment that he was born that Everyday Baby was done. That my "Everyday Baby" is my children. That I wanted to devote this time to them and that I wasn't a failure.

Failure is, the state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective, I have succeeded in everything that I set out to accomplish with Everyday Baby-it WAS my ticket out of traditional business and for that I am grateful.

There you have it.
The truth. Painful. Beautiful and all mine.

I will be closing the online portion at the end of this month.

I hope that you still choose to follow me! Just Christian the wife, the mother, blogger, and friend. I will be blogging more and talking about my new life as a SAHM and more about my oil stuff (which is now paying my bills, thankfully or I would've had to go back to work)..

Thank you to all of the people that helped make Everyday Baby what it was! I have met so many wonderful friends and can't thank you enough for your patronage. I will always hold the 'Everyday Baby days' fondly in my heart. You helped make me the Mother that I am today.



A chapter closed, the band-aide has been ripped off Nate. You were right...I do feel better. Love you!

Saturday, December 6, 2014

Mamas little helper.

This time baby I'll beeee bulletproof...


My current obsession is Bulletproof Coffee! If you're anything like me (busy mama) you enjoy a cup of coffee in the morning! Why not to make it more healthy?! Bulletproof coffee combines grass-fed butter, coconut oil, and essential oils! According to Dave (creator of this delish concoction),when you drink this in the morning the healthy fats naturally energize you, make you feel satiated and jump start fat burning for the rest of the day.
I've added peppermint oil to mine! Peppermint aides in digestion and is a natural energizer. Here's how to do it...

Bulletproof Coffee
A delicious & creamy latte-like coffee comprised of healthy fats. Combining the flavors of high quality artisan coffee (I suggest going here), grass-fed butter, coconut oil, and high quality essential oils (I ONLY suggest these) 

Serves:2

-16oz of high quality coffee freshly brewed coffee (black)
-1 tablespoon (or less) of grass-fed butter or ghee
-1 tablespoon of organic virgin coconut oil
-1 drop of peppermint oil (this
**do not add more than a drop

Optional add-ins:
-local honey
-agave
-organic sugar
-heavy cream
-almond milk
-coconut cream

**to keep it Paleo I suggest not adding any additional sugars.

Directions
Blend it up in a blender until it's creamy//frothy!

By adding this into your morning coffee you will increase your daily intake and absorption of healthy fat soluble vitamins A, D, E, K & K2 and healthy fatty acids such as conjugated linoleic acid (CLA) and medium-chain triglycerides (MCTs). Please remember that if you're breast-feeding you need to be weary of using large amounts of peppermint. In addition, this healthy fat combo has the potential to give you sustained energy for several hours! 

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

My Amazing Modern Blessingway...

A blessingway is a mother centered ceremony that replaces a traditional baby shower and replaces it with a gathering of the closest women in your life. Every ceremony that I have been to has been different and thats what I love about it! My blessingway represented me and what I needed for my journey. I will share all of the particular elements that made my blessing way special to me!

A woman centered ceremony in the sizing a woman strength, dignity, and her metamorphosis as she goes through the process of bringing new life into the world...


I held my blessingway at the Breathing Space in Sarasota, Florida. I wanted an evening ceremony that evoked a magical feel and couldn't have been more happy with the space. In the invitation we asked everyone to bring a string of their favorite color, a plant that best represents them, a blessing bead, and a dish to share. 







My dear friend Erin Ernst did a beautiful henna on my belly! We discussed a mermaid (her specialty considering that she's a mermaid herself) and turned out beautiful. 



I couldn't have been more blessed with the women that participated in this ceremony! Every single one of them made the event special...


We started the ceremony by honoring our mothers..."I am Christian the daughter of Gina and the Mother of Ella..." By doing this we acknowledged the mother presence in our lives. It was powerful! Some mothers and grandmothers had passed on so it was amazing to honor not just the living but also thank God for the lives of those that had passed. It was also neat to acknowledge ourselves as beautiful mamas...



The ladies went around the circle and tied the string around the laboring candle to represent their blessing during labor..


We did a cord binding prayer that connected us as a community-we took a large piece of string and wrapped it around our wrist, said a prayer, and cut the string. Each mama was left with bracelet around their wrist. That way when they looked down at it they could remember to pray for mama and baby...




Each woman was instructed to bring a blessing and a bead to adorn the laboring necklace! Everyone went around the circle and presented their bead and their blessing...it was moving! 


            My laboring candle was lit while I was in labor and it was a huge focal point for me.


Everyone left with a candle to light when I went into labor. Talking to some of them after Andersen Wilde was born confirmed that I had a long labor.."I had it burning for so long, I was getting worried..are you supposed to leave open flame if you have to go to the grocery store?"


    We made a beautiful prayer flag to adorn my birth space! I love having these little keepsakes too.


          To end the night we had delicious food around a gorgeous night sky and open flame.


A HUGE THANK YOU to Ashley Berry Photography for capturing my beautiful event! She has decided to extend an amazing offer to Everyday Axness readers by offering a portrait session for $75 if booked before December 20th!



This Wasn't My Dream...



I'm giddy that my children are napping at the same time, my house is clean, and I have completed 7 dinners to be frozen for future use. It's moments like these that I am reminded that "this wasn't my dream..."

When I was a young girl I wasn't aspiring to be a mother like other girls. I wasn't thinking of settling down with a guy. I had big dreams of becoming an independent, talented artist, living in a big city, and partying my whole life. I was going to make my own rules, be a girl boss, have a career, and laugh at the women that did the typical married with kids life. I was never going to have kids....or a husband. Then life really happened. I landed a great job, fell in love, got married bought a house, and guess what---had kids (plural). Everything happened pretty slowly and without thought, it was just a natural occurrence. It's amazing how you go along with what feels good and then look back to see its totally different then what you thought you wanted. 

After I had Ella my intentions of going back to work were thwarted by an overwhelming need to be with her. Guess what? I quit and became a stay-at-home mom, the kind that some young girl with stars in her eyes is praying to God she doesn't become and I'm ok with it. No. I'm not ok. I'm utterly ecstatic. If you would have told me 6-7 years ago, that I would NOT be living my dream of complete independence I would cry..but today I'm happy. I'm happy with all of it. This has become my dream. The thought of not having all of this; markers on the floor (without lids), crayons (broken), pieces of ripped coloring pages, the silence that a nap brings, the smell of just bathed toddler hair, baby breath, the sound of my name off my little girls lips...To not have these things would be a nightmare.