Thursday, February 5, 2015

Why I Choose Not to Vaccinate.

I have had so many of you message me and ask me about where I was with vaccinations, have I exposed Ella to chickenpox, and what my thoughts were on measles. I have had many people close to me advise me NOT to say anything but, I can't not share with you guys. I love you all and hope that you can make an informed decision for your family. We are all faced with choices and I hate that there is so much hate on both sides of the debate, whether or not you choose to vaccinate is up to you and informed consent is necessary in order to make this decision. I support you no matter your decision and I hope that you can support me too. 

Here is what I can tell you:
When I found out that I was pregnant with Ella I hadn't given much thought about vaccines. As a matter of fact, I didn't even know that you had a choice on vaccinating or not. While I was taking my childbirth education classes at the birthing center I began to think about the impending birth, I began writing out my birth plan and when I got to the portion regarding the HepB vaccine, I stopped. On the day that my baby is born, I am supposed to inject them with a disease, a disease in which exposure is slim to none? I started my research and this is what I found...

When I was little I did receive vaccinations; I remember going to the Health Dept and getting my shots. I think that I went twice with my Mom and that was it. Things look a little different now and we aren't just vaccinating against Polio and Diphtheria, we are now vaccinating against very mild, treatable diseases. We all had chicken pox, measles, mumps, rubella,  etc., as kids.  No one feared these things.  They were a right of passage.  You stayed home from school, got spoiled, watched cartoons and went back to school and that was that.  We also didn’t have peanut allergies, or autism or diabetes.   As a child, I knew of no one who had any of those things. I think we received about 6 vaccines when I was little. I began to realize that today’s children receive a lot more, but I didn’t realize how many.  I learned: 69 doses of 16 vaccines before age 18.   Including a Hep B vaccine on day of birth in most hospitals.  Outrageous. 

A picture started to form while I was doing this research.  A very clear picture that was at the same time, very disturbing.  

Vaccines have killed children

This is not a conspiracy.  This is a fact that is admitted by doctors, the package inserts and the manufacturers themselves.  Children die after vaccine.  A lot more often then you would imagine. As a matter of fact, there is a website (partially funded by the CDC) where you can go and report injury.

Vaccines cause harm

I know that with every “medicine,” there is risk.   The benefit should offset the risk.  None of these childhood illnesses were worrisome when I was young.   When you vaccinate, you take the risk of lifelong chronic illness, or even death.  A big price to pay, to avoid a mild childhood illness that gives you lifelong immunity. 

Vaccine ingredients 

Read about them.  Understand them.  It’s no wonder so many children die and are injured.  Read the inserts too.


I learned a placebo isn’t a placebo when it comes to vaccine studies. I learned that the studies are not independent.  I learned that nothing is what I thought it was.  The vaccine industry has long known the harmful side effects and are indemnified from any harm they cause.  Some of the things that have happened are downright criminal, but no one will step in and prosecute.

Advance warning 

There is no advance warning for vaccine injury.  It doesn’t matter if you selectively vaccinate, get one vaccine, delay, etc.  You have no way of knowing in advance if your children will be injured. If you are holding your breath and praying when you vaccinate, you shouldn’t be vaccinating.

Take your time 

You are in no rush. Take all the time necessary to learn everything you can so you can make an informed decision. Go check out this list of peer-reviewed studies!

Most doctors know as much about vaccines as I know about rocket engines 

Doctors don’t know what is in a vaccine, what isn’t in a vaccine, what an injury looks like or how to report them.  Most doctors, according to some research, don’t even vaccinate their kids on schedule.  Most doctors aren’t “up to date” on their own vaccines.  Most doctors don’t understand the history of herd immunity and how it does not apply to vaccinated populations.  They don’t understand anything outside of what they have been taught by their pharma-funded schooling.

Don’t be bullied 

The AAP, which is where pediatricians get all their information, pushes pediatricians to have their patients vaccinated and the propaganda is extreme.  Many peds are not seeing patients who don’t vaccinate.  FINE.  They work for you and not vice versa.  Find a family doctor or a DO  or a chiropractor or an ND to see you and your kids.  Most don’t push vaccines because they don’t have the AAP breathing down their necks.   Most kids don’t need medical care anyway.  “Well visits” are vaccine visits.  

Vaccines aren’t required for school

Exemptions exist in every state. Some states are more difficult than others, but they exist in every state. 

Many doctors have spoken out against vaccines

Vaccines didn't save us from anything

Yes, we have been told that vaccines eradicated polio, small pox, etc.  I have learned there is so much manipulation, it's hard to know exactly what happened with polio, but it's very clear that vaccines didn't eradicate it in the U.S. or in any other country.  In fact, there is plenty of evidence vaccines have caused polio many times, in the U.S. and in other countries.  Looking at the history of disease and mortality rates before and after vaccine was mind blowing.

Study, read, research, ask questions, talk to other parents, read everything you can get your hands on.  Then make a decision.  Don’t let anyone make your decision for you.  It’s your child, your choice.

**BIG thank you to Nancy Babcock (whom this article was adapted from)! Her dedication in Vaccine Awareness is something special. She has compiled so much information (found in this post) and I couldn't be more thankful! THANK YOU!

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Ripping off the band-aide..

I was about to type out how it "pains me to write this" or "how I am a failure" and maybe add in a "wish I could do it over" but I'm not...I'm not going to type any of that regarding the previous existence of Everyday Baby. I am not in pain. I'm not a failure. I wouldn't do any of it over...

Instead I'll tell you the truth. 

When I gave birth to Ella it changed my life, the traditional work force wasn't for me, and I needed a way out. Everyday Baby was my ticket. I dreamed of a place that I could take my baby to work, empower other mothers, and provide support. I emptied my savings account and got started building a business from the ground up. I was good at it. My previous business experience served me well and I was going steady. Heres what I didn't have experience in, motherhood. I had zero clue how much raising a child was going to take, nor was I prepared for the uphill battle that owning a brick & mortar business was going to be. Fast forward a rigorous year and a half later and I find out that I'm pregnant with my second baby while battling my (newly diagnosed) Ulcerative Colitis, wasn't a very good first trimester. The store suffered, I suffered, and I wasn't happy. My happy place became a prison. A prison that I had created. A place that was supposed to be my ticket to freedom became a major stressor.

I needed a plan...and fast. I had nothing.
I could've hired and I could have modified operation but I felt like I would be doing a disservice to the business because my heart just wasn't in it anymore. After months of prayer I decided to close the brick and mortar and head to the Farmers Market, which I don't know if you've tried to apply to get into a Farmers Market but it's REALLY difficult, at least the market I wanted to get into..I actually had my 3rd meeting with them the DAY Andersen was born, needless to say I had to cancel.

The day that I had Andersen something else birthed from me, I became immune to the feeling of failure regarding EB. I realized the moment that he was born that Everyday Baby was done. That my "Everyday Baby" is my children. That I wanted to devote this time to them and that I wasn't a failure.

Failure is, the state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective, I have succeeded in everything that I set out to accomplish with Everyday Baby-it WAS my ticket out of traditional business and for that I am grateful.

There you have it.
The truth. Painful. Beautiful and all mine.

I will be closing the online portion at the end of this month.

I hope that you still choose to follow me! Just Christian the wife, the mother, blogger, and friend. I will be blogging more and talking about my new life as a SAHM and more about my oil stuff (which is now paying my bills, thankfully or I would've had to go back to work)..

Thank you to all of the people that helped make Everyday Baby what it was! I have met so many wonderful friends and can't thank you enough for your patronage. I will always hold the 'Everyday Baby days' fondly in my heart. You helped make me the Mother that I am today.

A chapter closed, the band-aide has been ripped off Nate. You were right...I do feel better. Love you!

Saturday, December 6, 2014

Mamas little helper.

This time baby I'll beeee bulletproof...

My current obsession is Bulletproof Coffee! If you're anything like me (busy mama) you enjoy a cup of coffee in the morning! Why not to make it more healthy?! Bulletproof coffee combines grass-fed butter, coconut oil, and essential oils! According to Dave (creator of this delish concoction),when you drink this in the morning the healthy fats naturally energize you, make you feel satiated and jump start fat burning for the rest of the day.
I've added peppermint oil to mine! Peppermint aides in digestion and is a natural energizer. Here's how to do it...

Bulletproof Coffee
A delicious & creamy latte-like coffee comprised of healthy fats. Combining the flavors of high quality artisan coffee (I suggest going here), grass-fed butter, coconut oil, and high quality essential oils (I ONLY suggest these) 


-16oz of high quality coffee freshly brewed coffee (black)
-1 tablespoon (or less) of grass-fed butter or ghee
-1 tablespoon of organic virgin coconut oil
-1 drop of peppermint oil (this
**do not add more than a drop

Optional add-ins:
-local honey
-organic sugar
-heavy cream
-almond milk
-coconut cream

**to keep it Paleo I suggest not adding any additional sugars.

Blend it up in a blender until it's creamy//frothy!

By adding this into your morning coffee you will increase your daily intake and absorption of healthy fat soluble vitamins A, D, E, K & K2 and healthy fatty acids such as conjugated linoleic acid (CLA) and medium-chain triglycerides (MCTs). Please remember that if you're breast-feeding you need to be weary of using large amounts of peppermint. In addition, this healthy fat combo has the potential to give you sustained energy for several hours! 

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

My Amazing Modern Blessingway...

A blessingway is a mother centered ceremony that replaces a traditional baby shower and replaces it with a gathering of the closest women in your life. Every ceremony that I have been to has been different and thats what I love about it! My blessingway represented me and what I needed for my journey. I will share all of the particular elements that made my blessing way special to me!

A woman centered ceremony in the sizing a woman strength, dignity, and her metamorphosis as she goes through the process of bringing new life into the world...

I held my blessingway at the Breathing Space in Sarasota, Florida. I wanted an evening ceremony that evoked a magical feel and couldn't have been more happy with the space. In the invitation we asked everyone to bring a string of their favorite color, a plant that best represents them, a blessing bead, and a dish to share. 

My dear friend Erin Ernst did a beautiful henna on my belly! We discussed a mermaid (her specialty considering that she's a mermaid herself) and turned out beautiful. 

I couldn't have been more blessed with the women that participated in this ceremony! Every single one of them made the event special...

We started the ceremony by honoring our mothers..."I am Christian the daughter of Gina and the Mother of Ella..." By doing this we acknowledged the mother presence in our lives. It was powerful! Some mothers and grandmothers had passed on so it was amazing to honor not just the living but also thank God for the lives of those that had passed. It was also neat to acknowledge ourselves as beautiful mamas...

The ladies went around the circle and tied the string around the laboring candle to represent their blessing during labor..

We did a cord binding prayer that connected us as a community-we took a large piece of string and wrapped it around our wrist, said a prayer, and cut the string. Each mama was left with bracelet around their wrist. That way when they looked down at it they could remember to pray for mama and baby...

Each woman was instructed to bring a blessing and a bead to adorn the laboring necklace! Everyone went around the circle and presented their bead and their was moving! 

            My laboring candle was lit while I was in labor and it was a huge focal point for me.

Everyone left with a candle to light when I went into labor. Talking to some of them after Andersen Wilde was born confirmed that I had a long labor.."I had it burning for so long, I was getting worried..are you supposed to leave open flame if you have to go to the grocery store?"

    We made a beautiful prayer flag to adorn my birth space! I love having these little keepsakes too.

          To end the night we had delicious food around a gorgeous night sky and open flame.

A HUGE THANK YOU to Ashley Berry Photography for capturing my beautiful event! She has decided to extend an amazing offer to Everyday Axness readers by offering a portrait session for $75 if booked before December 20th!

This Wasn't My Dream...

I'm giddy that my children are napping at the same time, my house is clean, and I have completed 7 dinners to be frozen for future use. It's moments like these that I am reminded that "this wasn't my dream..."

When I was a young girl I wasn't aspiring to be a mother like other girls. I wasn't thinking of settling down with a guy. I had big dreams of becoming an independent, talented artist, living in a big city, and partying my whole life. I was going to make my own rules, be a girl boss, have a career, and laugh at the women that did the typical married with kids life. I was never going to have kids....or a husband. Then life really happened. I landed a great job, fell in love, got married bought a house, and guess what---had kids (plural). Everything happened pretty slowly and without thought, it was just a natural occurrence. It's amazing how you go along with what feels good and then look back to see its totally different then what you thought you wanted. 

After I had Ella my intentions of going back to work were thwarted by an overwhelming need to be with her. Guess what? I quit and became a stay-at-home mom, the kind that some young girl with stars in her eyes is praying to God she doesn't become and I'm ok with it. No. I'm not ok. I'm utterly ecstatic. If you would have told me 6-7 years ago, that I would NOT be living my dream of complete independence I would cry..but today I'm happy. I'm happy with all of it. This has become my dream. The thought of not having all of this; markers on the floor (without lids), crayons (broken), pieces of ripped coloring pages, the silence that a nap brings, the smell of just bathed toddler hair, baby breath, the sound of my name off my little girls lips...To not have these things would be a nightmare.

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Communication w/ the Axness Family

Hey guys!

I want to say THANK YOU! We have received so many amazing words from amazing people around the world! My inbox stays flooded and if I haven't gotten back to you yet, I promise I'm working on it!

Just wanted to throw this out. If I recieve an email that is sent between the hours of 2-4AM and the first sentence starts out about me sucking...I don't finish reading. So-if I were you I'd save your iPhone thumb for another hate email.

I also don't read lengthy emails unless they're positive. It's just the way I roll...I like to keep goodness in my life.


Friday, November 14, 2014

My labor lifelines. What I REALLY needed...

I over prepared for my labor//birth. I thought that I knew something. I really thought that since I had done it before I would know what to expect, what I would need, and how it was all going to happen.

I was wrong. Very wrong.

Now you get to learn from my mistakes! I will be sharing my entire birth story next week but until then I wanted to share with you the things thatI needed during his birth... my lifelines.

.My husband
I knew that I was going to need him but I had no clue how much I was going to need him this time. Like my last birth I had back labor and a posterior baby. 
(Translation=really long//painful birth)
His energy, support, and presence really got me through it all. Having him near me touching me, reassuring me, and lovingly supporting was soooo necessary. He's an amazing birth partner. He massaged me the whole time, encouraged me, and at the end of it all delivered my son to me. It was amazing.

.My birth ball
Dear inventor of the exercise ball, 
what made you decided to invent such a beautiful thing? Did you sit on a balloon one day, it didn't pop, and then you just had the amazing idea to super-size it? Did you know that it would be used in thousand and thousands of childbirths or did you think it would only be found in gyms? Whatever the case may be..thank you. I mean that.

Uhmmm...where to begin. To say that oils helped me during my labor would be an understatement. Not only did they help me but there were oils that I used for specific things that were AMAZING and I think that it's only fair that I outline them.

Clary Sage-I rubbed this on my tummy once labor got started. I have a new love for this oil. Clary Sage relaxes the uterine muscles and helps them prepare for childbirth and made contractions more efficient. This was beneficial in my case because of the babies position.

Lavender//Peace and Calming//ylang ylang- This is one of my favorite scents to diffuse. Its so relaxing and soothing. I actually kept that going throughout the house even after the baby was born. It kept everything calm and serene. Love it.

Panaway-Nate would use this to massage my back along with V-6 and it was uh-mazing! Remember how I mentioned I was in back labor. Yea. This helped. 

Orange//Peppermint-Nate diffused this in the bathroom at hour 20...Yea it was a long labor and I was starting to get tired. This blend gave me a nice energy boost and kept me going. I still love to diffuse this in the morning when we get up! It's so energizing!

Frankincense-Yes. Like the oil that they brought to baby Jesus (if it's good enough for Jesus, it's good enough for me)! Great to use on the perineum to prevent//heal tearing.

I was so exhausted and before it was time to push my awesome midwife brought me in a tablespoon of honey and it really gave me the energy that I needed to push out our little guy.

.A focal point
A had my labor candle from my Blessingway (more on that to come) lit and near me. It was a huge focal point for me and I really drew a lot of energy from that. Just knowing that there were other women from my community thinking//praying for me was powerful.

Thats about it folks....I didn't use any of the "Labor-aide" that I had made in the fridge, I didn't want to listen to the thousand "labor playlists" that I had created, I didn't need any of the herbal tinctures that I made, and I didn't need any of the snacks that I shopped for. Doesn't mean that you won't because every labor is different. I just didn't need what I thought that I needed...

Labor is trying.
Labor is hard.
Labor is beautiful.
Labor is a bitch.
Labor sucks.
Labor is amazing.

Labor is all of these things wrapped up into hours and minutes of your life only to be left with this...